Libido problems |
The ability to enjoy sex and to feel sexual are strongly related to feelings of sexual desire. Low libido can take away any interest in sex or intimacy or if sex is instigated by the partner it can prohibit the experience of pleasure from it. Some women feel like sex is the last thing on their mind. Some wish the sexual activity to be over as quickly as possible once they've agreed to it. Some women still really like the intimate moments with their partner but would like it to be limited to those. This lack of libido, instigation or enthusiasm could cause stress within a relationship or marriage.
Some medical conditions or types of medications can have a negative impact on a woman's sexual desire. Examples of these medications are antidepressants, neuroleptics, tranquillisers, benzodiazepines, beta blockers and oral contraception. Some women experiencing menopause notice a change in their levels of sexual desire among other physical changes. Although it would be helpful to examine whether there is a physiological problem causing the lack of desire, the results of these tests are usually not exclusive and sometimes don't offer any treatment options. There is no medication to 'lift' your libido. Usually assessment of other factors that are impacting your negative levels of libido can provide more options for improvement. Factors to consider are depression, anxiety, pain, relationship dissatisfaction, time management, stress management, unfamiliarity with your body and arousal, restrictive/religious thoughts and negative experiences. Treatment for your low libido at Sex Therapy & Psychology would start with an assessment of your problem and possible causal factors as well as defining your goals for treatment. Focussing on your process of physical sexual arousal could help discover which factors can produce a positive response from your mind and your body. Restricting thoughts or negative thinking patterns should be eliminated to establish a positive arousal response. Best practice is to gradually build your positive sexual experiences with or without your partner. Mindfulness is important in these steps: the ability to focus on the present moment, on your sensations with an open mind disabling distraction. This will be an important skill you will be taught during the treatment sessions. To make these steps successful it will be important to learn how to express your sexual needs and desires with your partner which will also be one of the focuses of Sex Therapy. These steps are just therapeutic suggestions that could help you to improve and manage your libido. The treatment will always be focused on your goals and aims which will be the guidance for the interventions. If you would like to discuss what Sex Therapy & Psychology could do for your libido problem click here to book your initial appointment with Selma van Diest. |