Differences in libido
Many women complain about their low levels of sexual desire or libido. They tend to compare themselves to their male partner who usually seems to have a higher libido. This could be based on the myth that all men are always in the mood for sex or they always think about sex. This myth might need some clarification. There are some primary differences between men and women that impact on the levels of experienced sexual desire. Men have a higher level of testosterone, they are better in focusing on a specific task, their body shows more visible symptoms of arousal and there is less stigma on male libido.
Women's sexual desire isn't as dependent on hormones as it is on circumstances and mood. Also women tend to feel more in the mood to have sex when they feel connected with their partner. When there is a difference in sexual desire between you and your partner it would be a good start to assess what could be causing these differences and what the desired outcome (compromise) would look like. A difference in sexual desire can cause severe stress in a relationship as it might be perceived as rejection or disinterest by the other partner.
Treatment of a difference in sexual desire will start with an assessment of the overall situation in which Selma could ask questions such as: How happy in general are you both feeling at this moment? Are you exposed to stressors or challenging situations? Is either of you diagnosed with a health condition or taking any medications at this time? How do you both feel about the relationship and the sexual interaction?
Answers to these questions will help Selma to understand your circumstances and the possible factors that could be causing the imbalance in sexual desire. Based on this assessment Selma will provide strategies or exercises to solve difficulties and to create positive experiences with each other and sexuality again. The opportunity to discuss problems or doubts with each other in a safe and confidential environment with an independent third party offers opportunities to improve your communication skills and understanding of the situation.
If you and your partner are experiencing a difference is sexual desire Selma van Diest would be more than willing to help you finding a solution to your dissatisfaction. Feel free to give her a call or go to our appointment page to make a booking to start your improvements now.